A note for my Digitech board friends
Folks,
I am currently in Pennsylvania, with the sad task of handling affairs of my mother's very minimal estate. She passed away on Halloween after a very short (6 day) illness, which turned out to be late stage cancer. Obviously, she was sick for a long time without realizing it. We buried her today. I write this only to let you all know that my answers may seem a little bizarre from time to time, because I tend to be overlooking some very obvious things right now. Still, staying in touch with you folks on the board gives me a little bit of a respite from other matters, so I am still checking in from time to time.
Thanks,
Phil
I am currently in Pennsylvania, with the sad task of handling affairs of my mother's very minimal estate. She passed away on Halloween after a very short (6 day) illness, which turned out to be late stage cancer. Obviously, she was sick for a long time without realizing it. We buried her today. I write this only to let you all know that my answers may seem a little bizarre from time to time, because I tend to be overlooking some very obvious things right now. Still, staying in touch with you folks on the board gives me a little bit of a respite from other matters, so I am still checking in from time to time.
Thanks,
Phil
Comments
I can empathize with you, as my Mother passed away 1 year two weeks ago. Even though she was ill and dying, when this event took place, I was still stunned and empty. Nothing can prepare you really. I actually didn't feel the full impact until 10 months later.
I don't know if it's the same for everyone, but when someone this close passes, it alters you in ways you can not explain. You are in my prayers.
What is maternal, is and always will be as heartfelt and bonding.
When my wife's mother had taken ill (term cancer) a bit ago, we moved her in with our family and although it changed many things to accommodate her needs and schedules, it was the wish we gladly granted her. For those few years our family here shared something we never would have dreamed of. I for one learned more about her life as well as my wife's from birth, to current. Every picture had a story and a meaning.
My wife was concerned about disruptions, problems with our kids, finances and more. 2-3 med appointments a week, sure it was tough and you have to be committed.
I told my wife that \"Your Mom took care of every sniffle, cut, bruise and broken heart you had through adulthoood. She made all the sacrifices and helped to meld you into who you are... she deserves the same\"
Upon her passing, she left this world saying how gratetful she was to be among love and family. I told her \"what you had given to us is surely to be carried on.\" She's among us to this day. Our sons are always reminded of her and look at oil paintings she made we have hanging on the walls of our home.
We mourn the loss and grieve, but at the same time celebrate the life and the spirit that carries among us forever. In that, we grieve less.
Celebrate the life my friend!
God Bless
I've been in that situation too and it takes time to overcome the loss.
May your Mother rest in peace.
My dads been gone 2 years now and I think about him everyday.
Your kind thoughts and condolences are most welcome. It is hard for me to believe that tomorrow will already be one week since she passed. I'll be returning to Texas on Thursday evening, and will be spending at least a few nights writing leters of thanks to some and of notification to others.
I do take great comfort in knowing that she was strong in her faith. During the three times I spoke to her after she was taken directly from hospital to hospice, she told me that she was not afraid. Yesterday, during the funeral mass, the last hymn played was \"Be Not Afraid\". That's when I lost it. I had not spoken to the priest about any of the conversations Mom and I had, and to hear a hymn that echoed her words, well, let's just say there was something spiritual about that. It will probably wind up in a song somewhere down the road.
I am going to give myself one little treat while I'm here - I'll go tour the Martin factory tomorrow afternoon. Mom and I had treid to go one time, but they don't give tours on Saturdays. I was never able to get here on a weekday after that, until now.
Phil
stay strong and try and enjoy the tour
PEACE
We have all benefited from you here. You are in my prayers this eve. that God would minister to you at this time. Like he did when you heard her words in that song. that he would walk you through this difficult time.
paul