A new World Order is taking place!
I could hardly believe it. Today the songbird asked me about RUSH. So I burned her a copy of my compilation \"RUSH For Beginners\", which I compiled to painlessly initiate non-believers to the wonder that is RUSH.
Maybe there's hope for her yet. Or even for me?? 8)
Maybe there's hope for her yet. Or even for me?? 8)
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get you some boy whoo whoo
Time to go McGyver on her Bro!
Then again, she hasn't heard it yet.
She'll be, like, \"good stuff... :roll: \" and \"cool, but it ain't Hoyt Axton\"....
I like 'tou's plan. Nothin' to lose... :twisted:
Except her never speaking to me again...\"but we're just friends!!!\" :evil:
Play this game under your terms. Start by telling her how beautiful your new place is. Keep talking it up like it's the greatest place on earth. Eventually, the curiosity will get to her, and she'll say something like \"Wow, I wish I could see it.\" But, resist the temptation to invite her down at first. It was reek of desperation.
As soon as she says that, change the topic of the conversation and don't mention anything about it. Act like you simply didn't hear it. Wait for her to make a second, or even third attempt before inviting her down. Also, make it crystal clear that she is not coming as a distant friend, but as a \"companion\" for the duration of the trip. Then you will see how she reacts. If she takes you up on the offer, you are in. If not, nothing lost.
So I've gone the 'ed route...I tell her how great it is here, but never mention her being part of it. And she hasn't said anything about wanting to come visit.
If she DID, I'd go iliace's route, and say \"sure, that'd be nice...so howz the job?\"
But I still think she's got a cougar streak - at the ripe ol' age of 33, she's been dating one early-20's guy after another for at least a year or so.'Til she dumps them 'cuz they're clueless and immature. :roll:
She hasn't yet grasped how us \"older\" guys have their ducks in a row, heads on straight (usually) and know how to appreciate a good woman. Oh well...
It aint Hoyt Axton!!!
Nothing ventured....nothing gained.
JV
You have to have some interest on her end. It might be there - it's usually subtle and difficult to notice unless you know what to look for.
This isn't some girl you've just met at a bar, though - you've known her and worked with her musically. So there are two options, once you tell her:
1. She is interested, and things move forward, or
2. She is not interested, and things will be forever awkward.
If you are willing to take that risk, or don't care either way, then go for it. Live and learn, as they say - at the least it's a learning experience.
Otherwise, wait for an opportune moment, or some blunt indication than she is, in fact, interested. It might never happen, but at least you can still use her for vocals, and she use you for the guitar and arrangements.
To some that may be a big deal, having the present yaking with the past! But he is on atleast talking terms with said ex. Sooo :roll: :shock: Maybe she ain't showing signs cuz of being friends with the ex and all?
Shred write all this down.. into a Hollywood script and give to that producer! Perhaps Hathaway can play the song byrd role!? :shock:
And Rawb is right - the whole arrangement came about via the ex, who was friends with the songbird first and introduced us.
That said...even though I'm still friendly with my ex, it's hard for me to imagine that anyone could think it's a flammable item...besides my ex thinking I'm a worthless dork, she's got a new guy she's madly in love with and will probably marry before years' end.
It's hard for me to imagine that being a factor for the songbird...she's not that close of friends w/my ex, and now that the ex has moved away with her new guy, they're hardly keeping in touch.
FWIW...I think it has more to do with the songbird - her personal issues, relationship history, and penchant for young, malleable guys.
Besides being pretty hott, she's bright and interesting and funny and has a really good attitude about being upbeat and having fun in life. Now...she may be like this may to mask emotional problems; she is, after all, a woman. :shock:
So...as I've said, I've spent lots of time with this girl, had \"deep\" conversations with her about not-music things, talked about philosophies and other personal stuff.
And while a mutual respect and appreciation developed, there was no \"spark\", no suggestion that she had any interest other than having someone who could play a git'r and lift PA cabs around. I mean, c'mon - I can't sing to save a dog's life. :oops:
So...while I don't have the stainless steel b@lls iliace does, I still don't think that I see enough of a chance in it to try to draw her into a more personal relationship...I can't think of a time when I ever thought it was a possibility; and like he said, once that's out in the air, it'd be awfully awkward, and I suspect I'd never hear from her again.
SO - as iliace sez - she can sing, I can play, and that's about all that's going on with us. And with her there and me here, that ain't even happening. I doubt she's missed a beat...every other guy can play a git'r, but few can sing like her. :?
Buzz Killer! .... LoL
Dang if it wasn't for shreds love life and the rusty river band .....
This place would be nothing but gnx's and music :shock:
Thankfully, there's me here to keep you all riveted with tales of my fascinating life. :roll:
And yes, I have more pics of her...including her publicity photos from when she took her shot in Nashville. She was going for the Daisy Duke look, and it TOTally worked on her. Yum. :twisted:
No, what i need is life insurance so I can pay off my debts when the songbird hunts me down and kills me for showing them.
Or, you can go see her smilin' face here:
http://www.guitarworkstation.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=8063
Or, hear her sing on the last few of my Manglings (#'s 15-20)...
http://www.guitarworkstation.com/forum/viewforum.php?f=26
Shredd: I am not going to use the L word here, but.......dude, there is no question...you are smitten!
On behalf of mankind, you have to take the plunge. If you don't, you will be what ifing yourself ten years from now.
So what if she 86's you? Awkward? She would be flattered and you will have gotten your answer, either way it is win, win. I mean its not like you're Quasimodo or something. Well, ok, even if you are, look how well that story ended.
JV
p.s. I'll bill you for my services later
Yeah, I'd be lyin' if I didn't admit I think this chick is killer. And believe me, I made every move short of grabbing her bra strap to get the point across.
But the reaction ain't there, so I figured, why make a fool out of myself and put her in the position of dropping me on my @$$.
So...can I pay your counseling fee with guitar lessons?
OOOuuucchhh! :shock:
And...have I mentioned - she's an ex-alcoholic, which - for those of you who know them - puts her in certain categories, which usually doesn't include g/f material (unless you're one yourself...). Doesn't matter how hott, how nice, how anything. Having gone that road and come back has a profound impact on your mindset, and it doesn't favor relationships with people who aren't in the same boat. My ex is an ex-al, and it sure didn't help us... :?
I haven't heard a peep out of the songbird since I sent her the songs we'd done together (Manglings #15-20 http://www.guitarworkstation.com/forum/viewforum.php?f=26 ), or the RUSH CD I put together.
I'm sure she's just busy with work, and spending time with some new boy toy.
Or else she heard them and thinks they're as awful as i did.
And now that she's heard my favorite band, she probably thinks I'm some drug-addled, brain-dead headbanger... :?
And...yes, the ex is marrying her new flame, next month...I knew it'd be before the end of year. I win the pool. 8)